20 Things Every Polished Gentleman Should Have

Being a polished gentleman takes effort. And an inherent sense of style. They have a certain quiet charm and refined sensibility that sets them apart from their less stylish, less chivalrous peers. Ladies know him well: he commands attention whether it’s because of his tailored suit, the monogrammed handkerchief he offers, or his obvious attention to detail.

My father, the most dapper man I’ve ever known, taught me what to look for: a man who carries an exquisite ink pen, one who’s well-read, well-traveled, one who has taps on his shoes and-- perhaps most impressive-- the ability to see a woman's true beauty. This is, my father insists, a man’s best treasure. A few posts ago we peeked inside my bag, now let's find out the other must-haves for today’s seigneur: 

1.    A signature cologne

My choice: Creed Aventus, Neiman Marcus. $55. 


2.    A black bespoke tuxedo

            My choice: a classic Henry Poole of London’s Saville Row. (Price varies)

3.    A signature cocktails

            My choice: The Vesper, favored by 007 himself.

4.    A luxury timepiece

            My choice: Hubolt Moonphase Titanium Orange or a vintage Rolex from the year you were born, or your child was born.

5.    A set of silver cufflinks

            My choice: Asprey’s of London rocket cufflinks $470

6.    A sterling silver, monogrammed money clip

            My choice: Deakin & Francis saddle clip $305

7.    A good driving shoe

            My choice: Tod’s Gommino suede shoe $445

8.    A cashmere top coat

             My choice: Paul Smith wool and cashmere coat $1295

9.    A quality ink pen

            My choice: Caran D’Ache RNX, 316 PBVD-coated Steel fountain pen $730

10.  A quality camera

            My choiceLeica M6 Gold Edition Sambutan Jubli Perak $27,114

11.  Wool pea coat

            My choice: Salle Privee Felix Virgin Wool-Blend $1360

12.  A subscription to at least one quality magazine and newspaper

            My choiceTatler, Mr. Porter, Esquire, The New York Times, or The Washington Post. 

13.  A pair of gold and silver aviator sunglasses

            My choice: Barton Perreira Gazarro Aviators $610 (when they aren’t sold out)

14.  A man bag

            My choice: Smythson & Co Panama Reporter Bag $995

15.  A cobbler

            My Choice: Atlanta’s best, Ansley Repair

16.  Quality luggage 

            My choice: Fabbrica Pelletterie Milano leather-trimmed aluminum carry-on $1290

17.  A favorite classic car

            My choice: 1957 Mercedes-Benz 300 SL


18.  A favorite author

            My choice: Jay McInerney. Bright Lights, Big City is a classic for a reason. Hypnotic, epic male-lit.

19.  A well-worn passport

            My choice of passport cover: Goyard $495


20.  And, of the utmost importance: a woman who knows her worth!